Here is one for you…
I’m single! But I’m in a long term relationship with myself. (Crazy and Wild… I know…) But let me explain… I am 38, have dated maybe a handful of people over the last 20 years… married and divorced (Officially a Canadian Statistic) and have been in “3 year relationship” with myself! And just getting back into the dating world!!! (Let me just say, I’m definitely learning, but more about what I truly deserve.) It will take a strong man to change my status!!!
I am human… and long for love and companionship but… during the 3 years I’ve been in this relationship, I’ve learned a whole hell of a lot about myself… like what I loath about myself, what needs working on and all the scars, scrapes and pains of the past. But also…. I’ve learned what I find beautiful about myself and love unconditionally about me.
This relationship can be straining… like seriously… holy sh!$ balls….
It’s become a daily battle of a solid love/ hate relationship that we all love… and unfortunately hate. The struggle is real… but consistent and there is no room for procrastination and little room for error. I’ve created a solid foundation on how I can truly annoy myself, frustrate and stress myself completely out. How I over react or not react at all. How impatient and stubborn I truly am. BUT I have also grasped the fine art of laughing at myself, loving my beauty and taking full pleasure in spoiling myself in the finer things in life. An endless love for me!! And unwavering faith in God perfecting me.
I think you might be seeing where I’m heading with this… there is a perfect element of perfection that comes from loving yourself on all levels. Diving deep into your authentic uniqueness and grasping on the small quarks that make you… specifically you. It’s truly when you love you, in all things and in all levels that you have the ability to freely let someone love you unconditionally back.
As I have come to terms with what my relationship “status” is, I can only dream of the endless possibilities in finding that in someone else. It is effortless at that level in my opinion. Maybe it’s time to write a list of what I want and need in a relationship based on how I treat and care for myself. (BAM!) How are you treating and loving yourself??
This is a moment of truth…